Dating culture differences
While I usually don’t subscribe to most stereotypes, there are always a few that are true enough to merit their labels. Playful—but always polite—conversations can be had between friends, between strangers, and even between married men and women with people who aren’t their significant other (gasp! In other cultures this may raise a few eyebrows, and tempers, but in France it’s just a conversation, there’s no strings attached. It’s more complicated than that, but that’s the most concise way I can think to put it.While in the US and the UK “dating” is seen as a series of meetings that adheres to certain rules and protocols—waiting the proper amount of time before calling someone, arranging a date, wait appropriate number of dates before initiating appropriate amount of intimacy—before the time comes to have the boyfriend/girlfriend talk, the French tend to have a more laid back attitude.The most that any such “advice” can normally do is perhaps to spare an occasional bruised feeling that might result from a minor misunderstanding.And where German and American cultures are concerned, the potential for culturally-based misunderstandings is relatively negligible, so if two people aren’t open-minded enough to try to work through such insignificant differences, the relationship doesn’t stand a snowflake’s chance in hell of surviving anyway.” However for most people whose sweetheart is German, a foreigner, there are plenty of cultural nuances and minor difficulties resulting sometimes in an alienation. Let’s listen again to Lynne, the expert in human relations in general and in relations with a German man in particular.The first signs of a difference in courting rituals between my home country of the UK and Turkey were evident on my first holiday.We had signed up for a rough and tumble Jeep safari around the mountains of Marmaris.Dating in itself is a very personal and sophisticated matter. According to Lynne P., an American living in Germany, ” …if there’s any genuine connection between two people, it’ll survive whatever differences may arise in the early stages of dating, and if those differences seem too overwhelming and/or the relationship doesn’t survive for other reasons, trying to make too many adaptations in the early stages is NOT going to help!
We no longer needed the approval of our dads and the days of being chaperoned while on a date were firmly rooted in the history books.
What this means for you: I mentioned before that French people don’t generally have “the talk” where the prospective couple decides if they want to be exclusive, so how do you know if you and your Parisian paramour are BF and GF? This doesn’t really happen in French dating culture.
If, during your courtship, you kiss on the lips it’s taken as a non-verbal agreement that you’re attracted to each other and are in a relationship.
Love and dating are both found all over the world, but ideas about them aren’t always the same.
During the past six months in Germany, I’ve learned that there are some differences between the mindset of couples and dating in the United States and the mindset in Germany.
Even though I’d already known that relationships in Germany tend to last longer, I was still slightly shocked when she told me.