Christian rules for dating my son
Throughout our relationship he’s really encouraged me in my faith … But I do not know how to handle the simplistic thinking from many members of the church who think that my relationship is wrong—that I should either end it, or be living in sin. I’ve been dating this man for two years now and he prepared me that he’ll be making a proposal soon.But when we announced our engagement I received a few emails from the pastor saying the Bible is clear that the relationship is wrong and that I need to end it. I knew that, out of love, I would receive some hostility from Christian friends, but it is getting to the point where I do not want to go back to church, because of the volume of people telling me to end the relationship—when they cannot give me a reason for doing so, other than him being a non-Christian. I was overwhelmed with joy, laughter, and excitement.
Dear Christians who make a point of letting their Christian friends who are in serious relationships with non-Christians know that they think it’s wrong for a Christian to date or marry a non-Christian: If I ever meet you, I am going to beat you up. And basing your criticism on some nonexistent rule that toxic gossip, which, in the descending rings of hell, puts you just above waiters who spit in people’s food, and just below people who don’t clean up after the dog they’re walking.)And if it’s your opinion that God automatically condemns the Christian who marries a non-Christian, then you’ve clearly tossed out, along with the baptismal water, Paul, who wrote in 1 Corinthians: For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband?We get so many questions about dating, relationships, girlfriends and boyfriends, physical intimacy, and the whole list of awkward sex questions.And that's totally okay by us because we're glad you're looking for biblical answers to these questions rather than trying to figure out the whole dating thing on your own or basing your actions on what the world tells you to do (2 Peter ).Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? If two people have found each other, fallen in love, and are taking good care of each other, then let them be.If Paul was okay with Christians being married to non-Christians, perhaps you could find your way to lightening up on the matter. Let their relationship grow into whatever it might.
A few days have gone by since the excitement and my heart is torn, I feel guilty for even dating a man who doesn’t follow Jesus.